OMG THIS is what all the fuss is about

Up until this past year, I had never heard the term "squirting".  Once I learned what it was, I thought that it was literally a "fountain" of liquid like would come from squirting something out of a bottle or a stream of something.  Yes, it can be that but it can simply be a rush of liquid and wetness creating a puddle.  No arched stream necessary.

Can I just say OMG - so THIS is what all the fuss is about.  NOW I know WHY men want to make a woman "squirt".  Now I know why I want to squirt.

In case YOU do not know - let me give you a definition by sharing from an article from Healthline, entitled "Everything You Need to Know About Squirting" Medically reviewed by Janet Brito, PhD, LCSW, CST on November 20, 2019 — Written by Gabrielle Kassel

What is it?   

“Squirting refers to the expulsion of fluid from folks with vulvas during sex,” certified sex coach Gigi Engle, author of “All The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life.”

The fluid — which isn’t pure pee, but rather is a combination of urea, uric acid, and creatinine — is released by the Skene’s gland, which sits at the lower end of the urethra.

Although the terms “female ejaculate” and “squirting” are sometimes used interchangeably, Dr. Jill McDevitt, PhD, CalExotics’ resident sexologist, notes that some people argue that ejaculating and squirting are two different things.

When someone squirts, Engle says, “it’s usually from G-spot stimulation, or clitoral and G-spot dual stimulation.”

She explains: The Skene’s glands, G-spot, and urethral sponge are all located in roughly the same area of the body.

“Typically, if you stimulate one thing, you likely stimulate them all.” And if you stimulate the Skene’s gland? Sometimes folks with vulvas squirt!

What does it feel like? 

That’s like asking what an orgasm or sex feels like: Everyone will have a slightly different answer.

According to Engle, “Some people say it feels nothing like an orgasm. While others note that it feels [similar], but slightly different from, an orgasm.”

“It’s intense. Like an extreme release. For me, I orgasm and then if my husband keeps touching my G-spot, then I squirt. It’s not really a similar sensation for me,” says Abby K., 42.

“Due to the pressure on the urethra, some people report feeling like they need to pee right before they squirt,” says Engle.

That’s the case for Joannie N., 29. “Right before it happens, I literally feel like I’m going to wet the bed. While it’s happening it feels like a really wet orgasm,” she says.

I highly recommend checking out the full article:  https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/squirting#tips-and-tricks

I remember having wet spots and I believe I gushed a few times with a partner or two in the past several months, but this most recent squirting was surreal.  I have never felt so much wetness or gushed so much than I did this time.  Each time was like an intense orgasm over and over and over again for what was maybe 30-45 minutes... I have no idea honestly.   I finally collapsed on the bed, my body exhausted from all of the gushing O's. 

Funny thing about that body exhaustion is that it really energized me.  I had a good deal of energy for most of the day as I often do when I have sex multiple times in a night.

I am telling you...  go find out what all the fuss is about.  Get yourself a partner to help you gush and/or squirt.  You won't be sorry!

I am Large and In Charge... take charge of you and squirt on!

Love, Scarlet

Feast or Famine

It is either Feast or Famine....   I am either being cancelled on, ghosted or I have too many toys or pieces of meat, er I mean men or boys...vying for my attention.  

I have one that I met at a party and I apparently have been on his mind a lot.  He wants to be with me and see me at any juncture.  I am going to call him "Sir" for now as I am sure there will be more to write about him.  

I have another that when he found out about being cancelled on 2 Wednesdays in a row - said he would never do that to me.  We have a date on Friday.  He is already smitten and has not met me. I warn them not to get attached to me - esp when they have not met me! Lets call him Redhead.

That's two...

We have the guy who cancelled on me twice that is not giving up and insists he must meet me...  This one can take a number as it is a pretty long wait.  We can call him Pistol for now. 

There are two others that also are not giving up - but they can... they are just looking for a hook-up, which clearly I do not need right now. HAHAHA

There is another that wants to "play" but I am pretty sure I deflated his ball as where there is lack of communication for me - there is lack of interest to play on my part.

Lets not forget we have to fit my FWB in the mix. If he was ready to get to know me better in terms of dating/relationship - this is the one I would try with.  For sure.  That said - he is not ready for that in his life, so we remain FWB.  I am not waiting around, so sadly it might need to end at some pt.  This would be a travesty as the intimate connection between us is insane and intense. I have not even had this type of connection with those I have been married to!  He is a really great guy too - just has things he needs to deal with.  

Whew. I apparently am currently on a feast.  NOT that I am complaining by any means.  Hell No - It's great.  It is pretty awesome and empowering to think that I could be and am wanted. Even if they only want me for one thing ... and to know that they probably wont get it as I do not need to have any hook ups right now - I am pretty good in that department.  

I would rather feast on man meat than eat regular food any day!  I am having fun and exploring as life is too short.  One day you are having fun and the next you are gone.

Enjoy life.  Have fun. Do you. Explore.  You are enough.   Be Large and In Charge in all parts of your life.

Signing off for today..    Love Scarlet

Cancelled on yet again (not a funny post)

I  have been awol for many reasons and I apologize for the long break I took.  Between end of the year, my son, getting the flu,etc...   I am back.

Its no wonder I prefer the fet fun over the dating world.   Being cancelled on sucks!  Yet again another back to back Wed cancellation.  Similar to a few mos ago where one week it is work and the next week it is their daughter.
Pretty sure I am way too skeptical as I do not believe what he said.  Even if it were true, I am not ok with it despite the fact that he supposedly is putting his daughter first.  Problem is that why did he not see her last night or night before, etc... as he was talking about? Why did this so called situation happen to come up 30 min before we were to meet?
I showered and got pretty and did my hair and make-up.  I tried so hard to salvage the night but had no options that would work out.  Finally at 8:30 I was resolved to change into pajamas and call it a night.  8:30!  Just ugh...  

What is worse that anything is that he was HOT! I mean his body was smoking hot.  I mourn the loss of what I will never get to experience in person. RIP smoking hot body.

Anyway - I am using this time to catch up on those chatting with me on line.  We shall see.

Until my next more upbeat and funny post. 

P.S. I get to see my FWB Sat night and I cant wait!

I am Large (3 ten spots less) and In Charge!

P.P.S.  So here we are at the 3rd Wed in a row and I had plans to meet a different person (also from FB dating which is just awful) and no text! Last night was the last text.  We had a tentative time, I was to hear from him during the day and then place tbd.  I texted him at 6 - heard nothing.  Crazy really.  Good thing I have plan B!  Always have plan B I have decided when it comes to the dating world.  Thankfully plan B comes from a different part of my life.

Revelations..

Have you ever learned things that have a profound impact on your life?  That happened to me this past weekend as I learned some things about people I have known for a considerable amount of time.  Life altering information... not for them but for me.  The fact that this has been hidden from me for so long was irrelevant... what was profound is that this information has helped me to make some important decisions about me and my life.

I have been dating since August 16 and I have had an immense amount of fun.  I was thinking I was done and I should reduce the amount of "hoeness" (my own new word) that was happening life and maybe seek to find someone for a LTR.  Nope! I learned this weekend that I am not ready for that.

If I happen to find someone and they are on the same page as I am in terms of my lifestyle - great!  If not - a LTR will have to wait a bit longer as I seek to explore and have some fun.

I have decided to try some things out and test my limits.  I want to keep exploring and have some good old fashioned BDSM fun.  I have created an adult bucket list if you will and I am seeking to fulfill it.   Not that it was ever taboo, but somehow this revelation I learned from my friends has created a second awakening of sorts and I am super excited about it.

I urge you to remember that life is short. Do not wait to fulfill your buckets lists or fantasies.  The time for you is here and now!

Here is to the unknown future. I am large and in charge.

Scarlet...   

Me and My Big Fancy Degree...

One surefire way to get yourself blocked is to spout off in a text about how you would not live up to my standards and my "big fancy degree".  WTF!  Did I ever mention that I am better than you because I own my own business? NO!  Have a masters degree? No!  Own my own house? No!

I never once degraded you or made you feel less than me - and we had not even met.  YOU were the one who said these things and said would you even date someone with a learning disability plus you said you had one friend.  WOW!

Go get some self confidence and good luck out there.  I am thankful I found out before we met and/or slept together that you are one big sad red flag waiting to happen.

I am way less judgmental than my friends and / or family when it comes to looks or your job, your status, etc...    You fucked it all up when you could not handle that I had to work tonight instead of giving you (whom I had not met yet) my undivided attention when I  had told you that I am a busy mom that is getting caught up before a busy weekend and the holidays.  I told you we could not meet for 2 weeks.  You said you were patient and then quickly changed your tune and outlook on yourself.

When I said that what I did not like was the lack of self confidence/self-esteem (my opinion/observation) and that I did not say anything about your job, education, status  - you did - but you proceeded to tell me that you did not need a lecture and said "let me bow to your perfection".  DUDE you have ISSUES!

WARNING WARNING - and Block.  Next.....

Lemonade out of Lemons... (Sugarfree!)

Last night I made Lemonade out of Lemons...   Sugarfree at that*!  I had a first date scheduled and apparently I was stood up.  The good part of it was that I had not even left my house yet... the bad part is that he owned a boat and I was really hoping to get to know him and get a few dates out of it!  I blocked him so that is not happening.

I had been face timing with him and chatting/texting with him a few times over the past few days.  All was good... or so I thought.  We spoke around 5 and he was starting to work on something for his boat...  I had told him I could meet him around 7:30 halfway between us.  At 7 he was still working on his boat... so I told him no worries. He told me he would text me when he was done.  Fast forward to 8 pm ish and I had not heard from him.  I texted asking if he was done/are we still meeting. He read this around 8:15 and started to reply as I could see the ... and then they disappeared!  Nice job Casper... No wonder you said you can't find anyone... So I wrote back and said I guess I am being stood up which is a shame as I had chosen him over two other offers!  (One I switched to a different day/time and the other offer came a few hours before I was stood up). 

Mind you - I was lying on the sofa, make-up all done, chilling out watching Flea Bag and thoroughly enjoying relaxing but still... I was ditched.  I was ditched and horny!  Yup, I said it.  Flea Bag is such an amazing show but it was getting hot and steamy and I was in need.  

Time to make Lemons... I texted my newer FWB/FF... and he happened on a rare Fri night not to be busy.  (He has a hobby that usually keeps him busy on most Friday nights).  I was totally willing to make the drive but he was amazing and drove to me.  I sprang into action to get the bedroom ready (I usually do not make my bed) and get into something way more comfortable.  30 minutes later the main ingredient needed to make lemonade appeared.    We did not waste time making a ton of Lemonade.... sugar free*.  (I found out he had been sitting watching TV wondering what I was doing)

*So why Sugar Free?  Simple... Sugar is something you get addicted to... he is not available for me to get addicted to right now.  He is not ready for a committed relationship.  We actually had that talk and if at some point he is, I do like him and would like to explore it if I am available to do so at the time.  If not...  I am taking him for what he is worth...  a seriously amazing FWB/FF that I am so comfortable with talking to or making Lemonade with.  

Three hours later... all of the lemons had been squeezed.

*****

In other news......

...  The guy I was supposed to have a date with on Wed night cancelled on me again - strike 2.  First time he had to work and do a last minute proposal.  We spoke on the phone on his breaks - all good.  This past Wednesday he had a "family emergency".  I heard from him Thursday saying he still wanted to see / meet me. I replied "ok" (but not really ok) and I have yet to hear from him. Sad about this one as he was pretty handsome and we really had a lot of laughs on the phone.  NEXT!

...  SQUIRREL!   On my phone when I click on the blog link...  it shows as wtfddchro...gspot.com which is hillarious!  G spots are SO very important.

...  I had a coffee date with someone that found me on facebook (not the dating portion) which by the way blows...and not in the good way.  FB dating section needs WAY more info so we can be more selective and not have to ask a million questions of someone.  Back to the coffee..  He was nice and a gentleman...
(You know there is a BUTTTTT in here... he is so loud/abrasive/New Yorker). 
We will see as I have agreed to spend a little more time getting to know him, BUTTTTT I feel I will be trying to change him and shush him.  So if I do need to say goodbye to him (which I can see coming) I will let him know that I am not looking to change someone and I want him to quiet down more than he is capable of. LOL!  We shall see- I am giving him another date on Sunday afternoon.

... I have a date this afternoon with someone on the surface I really like. He is not my type (if I have one) but from our conversations.. I am intrigued.  We are meeting at a location TBD and apparently playing a tile game! So very funny!  Lets see how this goes.

... I have another date Sunday am for breakfast with someone I do not know all that well.  Should be interesting.

...I have been in conversation with someone that I am a bit wary of as he is from England.  He is here for work and goes back soon and is supposedly moving here with his two boys.  He is sweet but I am pretty distrusting of those with an accent from England/Europe/Denmark, etc.. based on the scammer from Denmark. (No worries... I am too smart for that).

Lots of action and several that have gone by the wayside.  I would love to find someone to be in a LTR with at some pt, esp with holidays approaching; however, I am just going to lessen my need to make lemonade with so many, enjoy my dates and maybe start to be a little more selective at some pt soon.  We will see.  

For now I am large and in charge with eyes wide open!

P.S.  I think I am in the mood for a tall glass of water with a side of Lemon!

Things that make you go hmmmmm

I have not written in a while as I have been busy with my child...   not to much happening on the dating front, except for this:

The guy I had met and been with the night after we had a 2 hr meeting/date at a park... I felt he was not really into me since he had been sick. I called him on it and questioned if he was still interested.  It was all I could do to keep from laughing louder than the chuckle I did... he blamed me for getting him sick.  He blamed us "fooling around" for him getting sick! BAHAHAHAAHA
He works in a "hospital" and he "never" gets sick.  Soooo funny!  I was not sick.  I was fine.  Soooo funny. I told him it was ridiculous but thanks for telling me via phone and not on a text.  Is he serious?  I am really not at all sad about this as he was not right for me.... his kissing was awful (his tongue never left the inside of my mouth) and his package was waaaaay too small for me.  I just cant help but thinking how funny that either he really does think I am to blame (I think he was so serious) or he is using this as an excuse (less likely given other factors).  I just can't!  

Someone I had chatted with from another site (site for those that are larger) decided that I was not "large" enough for him.  He ultimately had told me that it would not work out as I was not uninhibited enough for him and more or less not big enough for him.  Also a ROFL moment.  He then hopped a flight and messaged me at 11 pm Sat night telling me he wanted me to come to Miami so he could bang me!  ROFL x 2! Flattering or down right scary?   He sent me pics of the last person he was with and told me that was was way hotter.  When I say pics of her - let me tell you that it was her and her vagina in all it's glory! WTF!  When I said no - the next night he sent me a pic of some hoe he picked up with white hair sucking him off and how they wanted me to join them! 
I am not joking here.  ROFL and WTF combined into one big ass HELL NO from me!  That is an STD waiting to happen right there.  And  in case you are wondering - I am totally hotter than any of the women he has sent me pics of.

And then there is young Latin guy that keeps asking me for booty pics.  Nope. No.  Hard No.

In positive news... I ordered a new vibrator.  She is something pretty special with 10 different speeds for inside and 10 levels of suction. My review is stellar.

Finally - I have to tell you to go watch Flea Bag on Amazon Prime. I was told to watch it and OMG - I am in love I have only watched 2 episodes but I am hooked!  She is my hero...Her and Madge the Vag!

I have a few men I am meeting this week and maybe weekend... so I am sure there will be a lot more to blog.  I am Large and In Charge.