Cancelled on yet again (not a funny post)

I  have been awol for many reasons and I apologize for the long break I took.  Between end of the year, my son, getting the flu,etc...   I am back.

Its no wonder I prefer the fet fun over the dating world.   Being cancelled on sucks!  Yet again another back to back Wed cancellation.  Similar to a few mos ago where one week it is work and the next week it is their daughter.
Pretty sure I am way too skeptical as I do not believe what he said.  Even if it were true, I am not ok with it despite the fact that he supposedly is putting his daughter first.  Problem is that why did he not see her last night or night before, etc... as he was talking about? Why did this so called situation happen to come up 30 min before we were to meet?
I showered and got pretty and did my hair and make-up.  I tried so hard to salvage the night but had no options that would work out.  Finally at 8:30 I was resolved to change into pajamas and call it a night.  8:30!  Just ugh...  

What is worse that anything is that he was HOT! I mean his body was smoking hot.  I mourn the loss of what I will never get to experience in person. RIP smoking hot body.

Anyway - I am using this time to catch up on those chatting with me on line.  We shall see.

Until my next more upbeat and funny post. 

P.S. I get to see my FWB Sat night and I cant wait!

I am Large (3 ten spots less) and In Charge!

P.P.S.  So here we are at the 3rd Wed in a row and I had plans to meet a different person (also from FB dating which is just awful) and no text! Last night was the last text.  We had a tentative time, I was to hear from him during the day and then place tbd.  I texted him at 6 - heard nothing.  Crazy really.  Good thing I have plan B!  Always have plan B I have decided when it comes to the dating world.  Thankfully plan B comes from a different part of my life.

Lemonade out of Lemons... (Sugarfree!)

Last night I made Lemonade out of Lemons...   Sugarfree at that*!  I had a first date scheduled and apparently I was stood up.  The good part of it was that I had not even left my house yet... the bad part is that he owned a boat and I was really hoping to get to know him and get a few dates out of it!  I blocked him so that is not happening.

I had been face timing with him and chatting/texting with him a few times over the past few days.  All was good... or so I thought.  We spoke around 5 and he was starting to work on something for his boat...  I had told him I could meet him around 7:30 halfway between us.  At 7 he was still working on his boat... so I told him no worries. He told me he would text me when he was done.  Fast forward to 8 pm ish and I had not heard from him.  I texted asking if he was done/are we still meeting. He read this around 8:15 and started to reply as I could see the ... and then they disappeared!  Nice job Casper... No wonder you said you can't find anyone... So I wrote back and said I guess I am being stood up which is a shame as I had chosen him over two other offers!  (One I switched to a different day/time and the other offer came a few hours before I was stood up). 

Mind you - I was lying on the sofa, make-up all done, chilling out watching Flea Bag and thoroughly enjoying relaxing but still... I was ditched.  I was ditched and horny!  Yup, I said it.  Flea Bag is such an amazing show but it was getting hot and steamy and I was in need.  

Time to make Lemons... I texted my newer FWB/FF... and he happened on a rare Fri night not to be busy.  (He has a hobby that usually keeps him busy on most Friday nights).  I was totally willing to make the drive but he was amazing and drove to me.  I sprang into action to get the bedroom ready (I usually do not make my bed) and get into something way more comfortable.  30 minutes later the main ingredient needed to make lemonade appeared.    We did not waste time making a ton of Lemonade.... sugar free*.  (I found out he had been sitting watching TV wondering what I was doing)

*So why Sugar Free?  Simple... Sugar is something you get addicted to... he is not available for me to get addicted to right now.  He is not ready for a committed relationship.  We actually had that talk and if at some point he is, I do like him and would like to explore it if I am available to do so at the time.  If not...  I am taking him for what he is worth...  a seriously amazing FWB/FF that I am so comfortable with talking to or making Lemonade with.  

Three hours later... all of the lemons had been squeezed.

*****

In other news......

...  The guy I was supposed to have a date with on Wed night cancelled on me again - strike 2.  First time he had to work and do a last minute proposal.  We spoke on the phone on his breaks - all good.  This past Wednesday he had a "family emergency".  I heard from him Thursday saying he still wanted to see / meet me. I replied "ok" (but not really ok) and I have yet to hear from him. Sad about this one as he was pretty handsome and we really had a lot of laughs on the phone.  NEXT!

...  SQUIRREL!   On my phone when I click on the blog link...  it shows as wtfddchro...gspot.com which is hillarious!  G spots are SO very important.

...  I had a coffee date with someone that found me on facebook (not the dating portion) which by the way blows...and not in the good way.  FB dating section needs WAY more info so we can be more selective and not have to ask a million questions of someone.  Back to the coffee..  He was nice and a gentleman...
(You know there is a BUTTTTT in here... he is so loud/abrasive/New Yorker). 
We will see as I have agreed to spend a little more time getting to know him, BUTTTTT I feel I will be trying to change him and shush him.  So if I do need to say goodbye to him (which I can see coming) I will let him know that I am not looking to change someone and I want him to quiet down more than he is capable of. LOL!  We shall see- I am giving him another date on Sunday afternoon.

... I have a date this afternoon with someone on the surface I really like. He is not my type (if I have one) but from our conversations.. I am intrigued.  We are meeting at a location TBD and apparently playing a tile game! So very funny!  Lets see how this goes.

... I have another date Sunday am for breakfast with someone I do not know all that well.  Should be interesting.

...I have been in conversation with someone that I am a bit wary of as he is from England.  He is here for work and goes back soon and is supposedly moving here with his two boys.  He is sweet but I am pretty distrusting of those with an accent from England/Europe/Denmark, etc.. based on the scammer from Denmark. (No worries... I am too smart for that).

Lots of action and several that have gone by the wayside.  I would love to find someone to be in a LTR with at some pt, esp with holidays approaching; however, I am just going to lessen my need to make lemonade with so many, enjoy my dates and maybe start to be a little more selective at some pt soon.  We will see.  

For now I am large and in charge with eyes wide open!

P.S.  I think I am in the mood for a tall glass of water with a side of Lemon!

Truly a Numbers Game AKA and then there were three...

Dating is TRULY a number game for both sexes.  The more you chat with / meet... the better your chances are to get lucky, have fun, date, go out or find "the one" for a LTR - whatever you are after.

One night this week, I met Latin Lover for coffee.  We already knew we had a lot in common and were hitting it off, so coffee was a bonus.  We talked there for 2 hours and then at closing moved to the car. We stood outside against the car kissing and talking for 45 minutes.  I kid you not!  He was HOT HOT HOT.  Latin Lover is 11 years my junior.  When I was dishing this fun night to mi madre...  I left out the details that came next...   I took him home!  Yup it was seriously just hot between us and there was absolutely no waiting.  He did not pressure me in any way but the feeling was mutual between us. Pure adult fun with a bonus shower.  (UPDATE...today he told me that he reconnected with someone from 3 years ago...  so he was pretty much a hit it and quit it.  But AT LEAST he told me and told me I was pretty and great and what happened was unexpected, blah blah.  I am not sorry I did it - he was super hot. I am a little sad as I wanted more of him! But there will be more and maybe better yet!)

What is super interesting here is that I am not small.  I have fat pretty much everywhere yet it just did not matter.  I am learning to be comfortable in my skin and with my fat as I navigate towards losing weight... because hell, this girl just wants to have fun! (Singing Cyndi Lauper as I type this)

So fast forward to not so fun Friday...  I was stood up in the morning by a seriously HOT Nurse as he "overslept" as he "worked late"... No second chances. He did not even call! He texted his apology and that he overslept and that I was important... blah blah.  I made the time in my work day, I set alarms and I got maybe 4.5 hours of sleep.... I was there to meet him ON TIME!  I hope I never need to have surgery in his OR...

Later Fri night I had a date with Southern Gentleman... I asked him out so I paid for dinner.  It was nice although the few times I tried to be intimate publicly he did not seem into it. So I refrained. People are silly that way... I was just trying to hold his hand... When we left he did not look so good and once we got home he looked worse. He ended up leaving as he was in pain and did not feel good inside.  I did hear from him today and he still wants to see me and make it up to me - so that is good.  But alas I did not have a lucky Friday at all!  I did finally get some much needed sleep.  Always a positive.

Today I was to meet one more for coffee but did not. After being stood up, I texted to confirm... he read it and never replied back. Nope. Not doing THAT again. NEXT...  Sorry mi madre... no "nice Jewish boy" on this go around.  he is not so nice after all.

I am chatting with a new person. He seems pretty funny. For now I will call him Cook.  He does something in the tech field and is also a cook.  We shall see....

Men, men and more men - its all in the numbers. I do not feel I am doing too bad considering it has been only a month that I have been navigating the minefield called men.  

Tonight its all about my friend and celebrating her. Until my next adventure...
Large and In Charge!